Category: Christian Life

I Don’t Know

Ray Van Neste posted a nice reminder for pastors about being willing to admit ignorance when asked a question they don’t know. It is only natural for a pastor to feel the pressure to come up with an answer for every question and scenario. They are charged with a tremendous responsibility to care for and protect a local body of believers. They are shepherds and stewards of God’s church. They spend several years studying at seminary and training in internships in order to help nurture believers in their faith and answer their questions along the way. Yet pastors are still human beings. Even with advanced education, there are still many things that they do not know. And that is ok. We should give them the benefit of the doubt and trust that they will do everything possible to answer our questions and care for our souls. If we do not believe this to be the case then we should not be members of the churches where we worship.

So pastors…be honest enough to admit ignorance in any moment and diligent enough to seek out the answers which presently elude you. And church members…give your pastors enough space to be honest about their ignorance and enough trust to know that they will do everything possible to help you work through your tough questions.

Sale on Two New Marriage Books

Westminster Bookstore has two new books on marriage at a steep discount until next Tuesday (11/8). The first book is Tim Keller’s new book, co-written with his wife Kathy, called The Meaning of Marriage. Westminster has it on sale for $14.25 which is 45% off the regular price.  The second book, written by Tim Chester, is called Gospel-Centered Marriage. You can get your hands on that one for the ridiculously low price of $2.99 (75% off). Place your order soon before the sale ends.

The Sunday Morning Scramble

That’s what it feels like for Annie and I on Sunday mornings…a mad scramble. We hit snooze a couple of times too many and before long we realize that we need to get moving if we want to have any reasonable hope of making it to church on time. On most Sunday mornings we are cutting it really close so that the smallest issue or setback can turn into a world-ending affair.

This past Sunday was no exception. We were subbing in as music leaders for some friends at City View Church near downtown Grand Rapids. Musically speaking, we were well prepared for that morning. We had been practicing the songs all week long. We knew what we wanted to do and how we wanted to do it. Yet mentally, I can speak for myself in saying that I was nowhere close to having a right focus or attitude toward leading the congregation in singing praises to God. As we gathered up our things and packed up the car that morning, we realized that something had been forgotten. So Annie ran back inside while I finished putting things away. As she got back into the car, I realized that I did not remember exactly how to get to the church. I started to pull it up on Google maps but my phone was conveniently running slow when I needed it to pull up the address instantly. Annie said that she would just pull it up on her GPS which just ended up annoying me even more since my phone should have made that unnecessary. When we finally got on the road, the GPS pointed us in the wrong direction from where we were coming out. So we had to make a u-turn in order to get back on track. Needless to say, I was less than thrilled with the morning’s events and found myself quickly sinking in the quicksand.

It is hard to know where to begin with that scenario. Time is always an issue for me no matter the day of the week. Living in the south for several years only seemed to enable my bad habit. There just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get everything done. I think that it is one of the reasons why people like myself are always running a few minutes late to things. We try to squeeze too many things into too little time. So it is always best to plan out your day and build in time for possible changes to your schedule of events or issues that pop up unexpectedly. Do not try to conquer the world in 16 hours. Be reasonable with what you can get done and be disciplined enough to work toward it. And leave early enough to enjoy that CD, audiobook, or sports talk radio on the ride over.

Time is far from the biggest concern here. This story reveals how quickly a person can be thrown off balance by things that really do not matter. To sum it up, we lose perspective far too easily. I allowed a forgotten item, an under-performing cellphone, and a wrong turn to dictate my attitude for a portion of the day. Of course, this phenomenon is not limited to Sunday mornings. It happens nearly every day with varying degrees of effectiveness. We can focus so much on these little events in our day that we completely forget about the majesty of God, the goodness of his creation (which we enjoy everyday), and the glories of the gospel that led to our salvation. The presence of God and his work in the world bear far greater consequences than an obstructed phone call or missed note in a song. I’m not saying that deficiencies and problems should not bother us to some degree. However, we should not allow them to overshadow the glory of God and good news of the gospel. He saved us from sin and death. He is redeeming the world so that one day we will not have to worry about injustice, disease, and death. He is sanctifying us everyday so that we are drawn further away from sin and closer to the heart of Christ. These are the things that define us as Christians.

On Sunday morning, I lost sight of what really mattered. But like every other moment, God corrected my blurry vision and allowed me to see the glorious riches of his grace. He allowed me to spend a few hours with a beautiful community of fellow believers so that we might all sing about the truths of an all-consuming gospel with one voice.

Cancer and the Goodness of God

The Story of Zac Smith from NewSpring Media on Vimeo.

(HT: Justin Taylor)

Transparency Instead of Accountability

I found this post over at Refine Us to be helpful regarding accountability.

What I have discovered is accountability is useless.

Accountability is only as valuable as the transparency you and I offer in the context of that accountability.

We have a unique ability as humans to fool each other. It is easy for me to fake you out. It is easy for you to lie to my face. It is easy to pretend like your marriage is better than it really is. It is easy to offer just enough accountability to make yourself look spiritual. At the same time that partial accountability can be so dangerous because you are not only fooling me, you are fooling yourself.

The truth is you and I can meet every Wednesday and I can lie to you. The truth is that you can have several circles of accountability and unless you are 100% transparent in at least one of those circles, implosion is on the horizon.

I am not saying you should be 100% transparent with everyone, but I am saying you should be 100% transparent with someone. I have two people in my life that if I am asked a question I give 100% of the truth; I withhold nothing. I know if I am struggling or need to confess something, or am in a dark place, I can share that with these two people.

One of the biggest mistakes I made in my life, my marriage and my ministry is I substituted accountability for transparency. Accountability without transparency is useless. It is easier in the short term to offer accountability and it seems more spiritual?but you experience more of the grace and mercy and love of Christ when you offer transparency.

In fact, when you are willing to offer transparency, you will find you don’t need to be held accountable.

I have had several attempts at accountability fail for the very reasons mentioned here. If you are not willing to be completely open and honest about everything to your accountability partner then you will not find true accountability. Instead, you will have created the illusion of accountability in order to ease your conscience. That may be a more dangerous and unhelpful position than having no accountability at all.

(HT: Zach Nielsen)


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